Per last entree: and phone call thought I would add these, as I am sure they will come up in comments.

signs as seen by friends/family

#1 dead end job
#2 no desire to improve self
#3 cheater
#4 disrespectful
#5 dead-beat dad {??}
#6 looser/scrub
#7 {fill in the blank}



Facts about him

#1 Works ass off for dead end job for now
#2 going to start school to become Electrician ASAP
#3 Has not "cheated" Has slept with other women per his present GF REQUEST to do so.
#4 Quite man
#5 talks to his children OFTEN/ pays his support on time/loves them/is proud of them/displays pictures of them in his home
#6 has his OWN place, pays his OWN bills, does his OWN laundry, cooks his OWN food, does his OWN shopping,
saves his money

Sounds like I am trying to "build him up", I am, however, trying to dispel myths.