Topic: Single Mothers
Set-up:My children are spending the night at friends homes tonight. BB is at a friends home who only has a mother. The twins are at a home that has a mother and step father. I am a single mother.
Mom's argument's: Having only a mother is horrible for the children because they do not have the financial support that they would have with 2 parents. Poor kids end up living in dumps.
Note: I hung up before I got very irate.
What are MY points?
#1 I grew up with 2 parents and also lived in a dump! Floors rotting beneath our feet, enough roaches to fill Afghanistan, sewers that backed up and spewed raw sewage over 1/4 of the basement.
#2 I grew up with a "father" who left me physically disabled for life. {IMHO it is sooo much better NOT to have a man in a child's life if he is like that. There are other members of my family that are going to be "scarred" because the wife is too afraid to leave the abusive husband. I am glad to I am strong, just wish I could be strong enough for them too.}
#3 I am disabled and live in more pain everyday than my mother has ever had to experience and I am a better mother/father figure to my children than she ever was to me. I make sure they are clean, fed, healthy. They are NOT abused at all in any way-EVER because I refuse to allow anyone in my children's life that is going to be like that. ALL 3 of my children are HONOR ROLL STUDENTS.
#4 I refuse to be UNHAPPY, I make up MY OWN MIND and do NOT allow a MAN to do it for me. I set my OWN rules and I break them if I want to without the "fear" of getting beaten by my husband. {{I am talking ABUSE here-don't get cocky about my lifestyle!}}
#5 I believe when you get married it SHOULD be forever, however, reality has shown that there ARE abusive assholes in this world {I married 3-daughter to 1} and NOWHERE in my wedding vows did it state that "I PROMISE TO TAKE YOUR ABUSE!"
Now....I wake everyday to get my children to school. Make sure they are clean and fed and there on time. I make sure their homework is done and everything is signed the night before. I cook, do laundry, clean, give them just about everything they want to have {if they earn it} and I also whore myself out all night long just so I can have that extra income that I need. I should be getting child support from 2 men-but I get nothing at all!
NOBODY, including my mother is ever going to tell me that being a single mother is sad and devastating to my children. Ask them, they will tell you that they are VERY HAPPY and WANT for NOTHING-EVER!
Single mothers are the strongest people I know because we do the work for TWO-not because we WANT to- because we HAVE to. Because at one point in our lives we made a decision to love some man and then made another decision to NOT stay with that man, that our babies are MUCH BETTER OFF AWAY FROM THEM.
The fact that we only have ONE income is NOT deprivation of OUR character.....Just shows what a very clever choice we made!
posted by Optima at 8:57 PM|
